Narcissism has never been an attitude that one boasted about. Narcissists are not, after all, team players. In the end, everything is about themselves. Remember Narcissus!
Psychologists tell us that this can lead to some rather anti-social behavior. Some narcissists may have a tendency to put others down to make themselves feel better.
So do we check the Narcs out of the balloon? Not so fast! Consider, for a moment, that a good many, if not all of the great artists of the world have had a touch of narcissism. And some, Oscar Wilde comes to mind, had far more than a touch. Do we toss these folks out of the balloon along with the rest?
I think not. Self-love is in fact something that we all must nurture. The question is not then whether we love ourselves. We do. More than we will admit.The question is what do we love about ourselves?
This takes me to narcing “in” versus narcing “out”. When we love who we are, we narc in. We defend what we claim as our own. When we love what we can do, we narc out. We love how we connect beyond the self.
So do you narc out? Rock on dude!